My practice, and my speaking and consulting work, are focused on women’s pleasure: how we get it, how we keep it; how we lose it. I help women navigate their intense desire for relationship and their equally intense ambition and desire for independence, authenticity and self-expansion. In my work as an author and a therapist, I’ve found that this duality is most often the culprit for the elusiveness of pleasure in our lives; and that managing this tension between relationship and self is transformative.

I see my work as an emotional rescue of that inner, desiring voice I call “the erotic voice”–the wellspring of your passion and creativity. It propels you toward what you want, what you feel, what you know–that is,  toward your pleasures, in  love and sex, in work, in spiritual fulfillment, in life. Your erotic voice is you.

This inner voice can get hushed a bit along the way, even for the strongest and most accomplished among us. But when it becomes a whisper, or so faint that you no longer hear it, or silenced entirely, you feel its absence dramatically. You can feel stuck, ambivalent, paralyzed, out of touch. Not like yourself. For those who don’t understand this unexpected loss of self, it’s hard to explain to them what’s gone missing–except to say that your vitality and confidence have faded, and you feel little pleasure.

I believe this silencing of the erotic voice accounts in many ways for the high rate of depression among women. My life’s work has been to understand how and when this inner “erotic voice” that leads us to our heart’s desire gets silenced or goes missing—and how it can be, must be, recovered.

I earned my Masters in Social Work degree from New York University in 2001. I’ve been in practice for over a decade, in New York City and in Westport, Ct.

I can be reached by phone at  917-359-9658; or on email at