Right after the new year and just before Valentine’s Day, I always like to get the feel of what’s going on with love and marriage across the nation, and to make a few predictions for the coming year. Here they are: Love in 2012.
1. Everyone of all ages will be dating like mad. An unprecedented 110-million singles in America means that they—not married people–now make up the majority of households. And they’re dating! Millions of adults of all ages—30s through 70s–are between marriages, against marrying, or on the way to remarriages.
2. We will become increasinglystarry-eyed about marriage, even as we become increasingly disenchanted, skittish and cynical about it. It is a psychological fact that we long for, and idealize,institutions that promise safety and security. The military. The church. Marriage. Anything that was once reliable but is now increasingly fragile, and even endangered, is a prime target for our nostalgia. I predict that, even as we divorce more often. sooner and more bitterly, we will increasingly long for the “good old days” when marriage lasted forever. Because it so rarely does. Continue Reading →